It feels as though we're always put us in a terrible position to choose between markets/what a manager wants/shareholders/funders etc and the feelings and well being of people who we value.
We always have to choose but the choice feels very pointed at times. How do you navigate these choices?
Hey Tom, thanks for the recommendation on the network test. I am sitting at a similar place to your scores in 2021. Feeling the missing community pretty heavily these days.
So I am the person who asked you the question about online community in your Stoa presentation the other day. I definitely believe online community can yield benefits, but I think it also helps if you are the mediator at the top of the hierarchy (not knocking your position, it is something I think many of us would love to have ourselves). I'm wondering though, it seems like the network test doesn't account for online vs offline friendships. It just asks whether you have had deep convos and how frequently you speak with the individuals. Do you think there is a psychological difference between the new online friendships you've gained vs fixtures of friendship that you have around you in the world?
I am skeptical, perhaps because finding online friends seems like a very fickle thing and I've thus far been largely unsuccessful. I could definitely follow your advice and start giving more love to the digital places I frequent. Maybe you could one day give us a "Friendship Guide for the Digital Age." 😆
I am just a guy. No expert on anything and an N of 1. I got to my position not by being the top of a hierarchy, but by being transparent about who I am and how I struggled. That attracted likeminded folks. So I shared. Also I have found insanely rich friendships online, but never without meeting that person even if by zoom. At least a few times in person helps too. “Love is mutually accelerating disclosure.” Start by telling the world who you really are, no matter how scary or vulnerable it seems.
Haha I think my comment might have came off wrong. I meant "top of the hierarchy" specifically in relation to your position at leading edge, not your other accomplishments. Maybe a poor choice of words. All I meant to convey was that I think being a thoroughfare through which communications flow through (as the founder of an online community) is an easier and more surefire way to find online friendships. It seems like community members writ large are less committal and have less opportunities to find deeper connections.
It feels as though we're always put us in a terrible position to choose between markets/what a manager wants/shareholders/funders etc and the feelings and well being of people who we value.
We always have to choose but the choice feels very pointed at times. How do you navigate these choices?
The most absurd, heretical and also likely untrue answer is that we don't have to choose. https://newsletter.theleading-edge.org/p/the-great-betrayal
Hey Tom, thanks for the recommendation on the network test. I am sitting at a similar place to your scores in 2021. Feeling the missing community pretty heavily these days.
So I am the person who asked you the question about online community in your Stoa presentation the other day. I definitely believe online community can yield benefits, but I think it also helps if you are the mediator at the top of the hierarchy (not knocking your position, it is something I think many of us would love to have ourselves). I'm wondering though, it seems like the network test doesn't account for online vs offline friendships. It just asks whether you have had deep convos and how frequently you speak with the individuals. Do you think there is a psychological difference between the new online friendships you've gained vs fixtures of friendship that you have around you in the world?
I am skeptical, perhaps because finding online friends seems like a very fickle thing and I've thus far been largely unsuccessful. I could definitely follow your advice and start giving more love to the digital places I frequent. Maybe you could one day give us a "Friendship Guide for the Digital Age." 😆
I am just a guy. No expert on anything and an N of 1. I got to my position not by being the top of a hierarchy, but by being transparent about who I am and how I struggled. That attracted likeminded folks. So I shared. Also I have found insanely rich friendships online, but never without meeting that person even if by zoom. At least a few times in person helps too. “Love is mutually accelerating disclosure.” Start by telling the world who you really are, no matter how scary or vulnerable it seems.
Haha I think my comment might have came off wrong. I meant "top of the hierarchy" specifically in relation to your position at leading edge, not your other accomplishments. Maybe a poor choice of words. All I meant to convey was that I think being a thoroughfare through which communications flow through (as the founder of an online community) is an easier and more surefire way to find online friendships. It seems like community members writ large are less committal and have less opportunities to find deeper connections.
Nice article Tom.
Here is the cheat sheet from The Path Way to Flow by Julia Christensen.
1. Create a routine.
2. Build a skill set through repetative action.
3. Create a social community.
4. Create ecstatic feelings.
5. Use your imagination.
6. Cultivate movement & expression.
7. Cultivate purpose & intention.
Kinda segues into what you are looking at.
Peace
Richard